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The answer is probably ‘yes’! but there’s a good reason for that. When someone tells us something we’re often impartial, and not emotionally involved. It’s easy to take the facts as they’re presented and separate the emotion so that we can offer some helpful comment. When it’s inside our own heads, past experiences cloud our thoughts and our emotions often drown us thereby giving us a struggle to get perspective. It’s not that we don’t want to solve our own problems, it’s often that we can’t!
So don’t berate yourself when you feel you need other people to help, this is a great way to get support anyway, but if you don’t find it’s impartial, maybe take care who you pick! Friends ARE great, but they can be biased as can family so pick and choose the best person for that issue.
If you haven’t got someone to ‘run it by’ then write it down – that can help. Rank the issue from 1 to 10 where 10 is dreadful and 1 is fine. Now decide what you’ve tried so far; is there anything you can think of that’s new, look for advice on the internet even and break it down to bite size chunks. Often we’re overwhelmed and troubled which also stops us being practical and focussed.
Try this, it really helps!